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My daughter Molly Part 2

Molly Stanley
Inventory of Being
I am full of contradictions
I am made up of wishes and truths, sadness and joy
Anger and calm, kindness and cynicism
Fire and ice, dark and light
Hopes and despairs
I know what I like and don’t like
I love my family and friends, animals and imagination
I dislike the cold and carbonated drinks
I love music and dancing, warmth and laughter
I dislike math homework and early mornings
I know what I believe in, and I stand strong behind those beliefs
I believe being different doesn’t make you a
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my daughter Molly part 1

Molly Stanley
It usually starts with something.
An event, a trigger, a starting point.
One moment that replays in your mind like a broken record, the one moment you wish you were able banish to the recesses of your mind, never to be seen or heard from again.
I’ve searched for it, sifting through the few things I remember from childhood, recounting the stories my parents have told me about myself, the times in my life I no longer remember.
My insufficient memory took those from me, the memories of my carefree days, when joy was limitless, love
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English teacher with a chemistry major!

This is a story of a high school volleyball team. The players on the team were led by a coach and his staff who made it his philosophy to put team chemistry as a priority and a motivational model for his players. On the way to a state championship he vowed to make sure he got everyone of his players in a game, and he did just that, even the Junior Varsity players called up after their season was over.


 In one particular playoff game he put a boy in who had to serve. The young man blasted a
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The advantages of sitting on the bench and watching have been brought up to me on numerous occasions and I would like to address the issue. It is exponentially better to play than to sit on the bench. The example of Aaron Rodgers sitting on the bench learning from Brett Farve was used as an example. Let’s look at Aaron Rodgers stats from 2008 to 2011.
Year Team G Att Comp Pct Att/G Yds Avg Yds/G TD TD% Int Int% Lng 20+ 40+ Sck SckY Rate
 2011 Green Bay Packers 15 502 343 68.3 33.5 4,643 9.2 309.5 45
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TRIPLE A—Does that mean attitude, athleticism, and academics?  A recent conversation with some hockey players who were playing “Triple A” hockey at the Bantam level led me to this next blog. 
The children were adamant about both their ability to get a DI scholarship, and the proper path to take to receive the scholarship.  They would continue to play at their current level, which included not playing for their high school team, missing days of school to go to different tournaments, and playing as much as possible.
Let’s break it down.  First and foremost, just because
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Bob Salomans journey. ck it out!

It is amazing how one life could drastically change with hard work, a passion, and dedication. Three years ago, Bob Salomon was just a regular family man with a wife, two kids, and a full-time job as an officer for the state of New Jersey. While Salomon enters his 24th year on the job, these days you can also find him at the center of a unique movement with the commitment to making a difference. As the co-creator and driving force behind the children’s book, “A Glove of Their Own,” Bob has watched numerous organizations and foundations use his
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Basketball against the Zen:

There is a state championship team in basketball. They have multiple D1 athletes recruited in multiple sports. They are trying to recapture their former glory with one last run with the seniors who make up the bulk of their D1 ensemble. I have watched them play twice this year and have followed them intently.

            The first game I saw, they easily beat their opponent. In realty, the game was over by half time as they held a commanding lead. The coach subbed liberally and made sure all the players got into the game. However, after the game was over,
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hockey story

 This is a story about a high school hockey coach. I ran into this person when I was called to help a youth sports coach solve a problem on his team. While waiting for his team to come off the ice, I noticed this high school coach with a serious look on his face standing at the arena door, scowling. Previously, I had been told that he was a great guy and that everyone likes this guy. I was stunned when he spoke. He cursed the team practicing on the ice and cursed at them, saying they should get off
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Screamin memees

Yet another modified basketball game, and yet another example of what needs to be fixed in youth sports. In the grand scheme of things, it was one more meaningless game. Boys were playing basketball to have fun. They are not at home playing X-box or on their phones texting or staring at the computer. Both coaches were mindful of their players' playing time, their enjoyment in participating on a team, and just having fun.
  I purposefully sat close to the benches during the first half. I listened to the coaches talk to their players and everything was fine. The

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Unsportsmanlike Conduct:

Unsportsmanlike Conduct:
            A sectional championship soccer game was taking place before a packed stadium. Two rivals playing in front of three thousand people. A great day for all the players. In a hotly contested match, the winning team was substituting many players during the contest. They increased their lead with 10 minutes to go and emptied their bench. This team was made up of mostly players who played on their own town team. Most, if not all of their kids would get a chance to play in front of this packed house.
The other coach who had many “Club”
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freshmen basketball

I just attended a freshman high school basketball game. This game happened to be with an inner city team participating against a well to do school. Immediately the suburban school took a commanding lead. The inner city coach was continually barking orders to his players, even going past the mid court line to yell instructions. On a few occasions as soon as one of his players made a mistake he was yanked from the game. This went on for the entire first half the team was getting blown out.
             Even with all his constant instructions and reprimands the
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I am trying to give you as much information as possible in as many different areas as possible so that when you engage your attention to the subject matter i present. You can then pick and choose the information that is personally applicable to your life and journey.

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modified fun

I am working with a modified basketball  coach. His team won easily over a weak opponent. Even up 25 he made sure to keep at least two of his better players in the game at all times. He had reasons not to play the weaker players, all coaches do that follow this pattern of coaching. None are valid in the long term best interest of developing the most players athletically. I explained how that was hurting his team and stopping them from getting better. What he didn't see that I could is the unhappy players on his team. The good

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Fill 'er up

If you are trying to fill the glass with knowledge and successful while only a few are helping to fill the glass, then it will take much longer and with much more effort to fill the glass then it would if everyone is pitching in a contributing to filling the glass.

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If you have an academic problem on your team instead of dressing a player and benching him or giving him limited minutes during the game, get there an hour early and tutor the student so he can earn playing time.

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Enable or disable

An educator is not here to disable you by telling you what to do all the time.  That type of education makes you dependent on on teacher or distracted by the teacher as you try to gain enlightenment on your own path in life.  An educator's goal is to give you choices and educate you to the wisdom and consequences of those choices.  It is only then that true learning takes place away from the teacher and inside your own mind and soul. 

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The idea that a team can be successful any long term run without benefit to to the least talented members on the team only that shows that winning a particular game or games without positive participation from all is actually harmful in the long run. The gap between the haves and the haves not widen and effort decreases. The very definition of team excludes "me" and values inclusion over separation. The win is cheapened by that lack of inclusion.
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winning over participation in youth sports

Isnt it interesting that most people who clamor for winning over participation in youth sports are unhappy at home or work. They think winning will cure all ills. What they dont see is that winning becomes like a drug. The more you do the less effect it has on you. You want more and more , but its never enough, and the good feeling you got from winning in the beginning is harder and harder to find Winning becomes a crutch.
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Let's talk about momentum. It has been stated by many pundits that Eli and the Giants are peaking at the right time. Lets examine. The Giants had been struggling. they faced a team in the Cowboys who had been struggling. Fact, In a game like this one team will lose. So the Cowboys struggled and the Giants won. A lot of times in a team sport, one team loses the game instead of the other team winning. Then a dysfunctional Jets team. They imploded. Giants win. Now they are feeling better about themselves true. falcons next, and another victory Next

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