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Is It Really Worth It?

That does not sound right to me
I had another conversation, with another parent, claiming to have a full ride for their child athletically. When questioned thoroughly, and my connections to college coaches explained to him, the parent changes the story. Well, it wasn’t DI and it wasn’t a full athletic scholarship. My child has great grades.
Are parents so caught up in the ego and status of having a kid with a scholarship that they just throw away the truth and hope no one catches them? Are they in a group where everyone believes them and wants to be able to say they know the kid who got the athletic scholarship? Do they yearn for status they never had as a non athlete growing up? Do they spend so much time and money that they feel entitled to some recognition and status they see other parents getting?
Too bad it is not like the whisper in the ear around the room conversation. By the time the last person gets the first person’s saying the whole statement has changed. Parents, I do not care how much time and money you have spent. Your child’s athletic career has nothing to do with you.
The stories I hear all basically come down to one simple truth. The rules apply to everyone but me. As long as I get mine, and I can brag about it, even if it means twisting the truth, so be it. I hear everyone else brag about what they got for their kid, even though I have no idea if they are telling the truth, so I am going to brag and exaggerate about my child.
“I will come off as an expert on the subject and make you believe that my child could have, would have, but decided not to, chase the dream we had as a parents for ourselves. Since they first started playing youth sports, I have been surrounded by people claiming to have full rides” and that the goal is attainable for my child.  I want to believe them so I will not verify their tall tales, even though the numbers do not add up.”
Don’t let the truth get in the way. That narrative does not help me justify what if, or at the very least, defend my actions. Up until 30 years ago very few if any parents felt the need to have this conversation, or did they.
We keep saying how smart kids are these days. Do not be surprised when your child rebel because he or she knows what you are doing is not in their best interest.
 Trust, the base of any relationship, is compromised. At what cost? Is it really worth it?

Written by : molly