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Sportsmanship and the coaches ego

Category: Uncategorised
Published: Monday, 20 June 2016

Sportsmanship and the coaches ego

            Two rivals were locked up in a basketball game. Alumni from both schools were there to witness the event. Clearly, one team was significantly better than the other. The outcome was pretty much assured. Sure enough, going into the fourth quarter, and for that matter, even the second half, the outcome was already determined.

            The winning coach, with 47 seconds to go in the third quarter went to the end of his bench and purposely put in his last player. This gave the losing coach time to see the gesture and replace his starters to start the fourth quarter. He chose not to do so.

            What happened during the fourth quarter was interesting to watch. The winning coach seeing that the losing coach was not going to empty his bench, decided to substitute his bench players in one at a time. With 4 minutes remaining in the fourth quarter, when the other team had still not cleared his bench, he put on a full court press. The fans of the losing team were outraged. I found it quite amusing. He had made his magnanimous gesture near the end of the third quarter, and when the losing coach decided not to accept, he crushed him. Finally, with two minutes left in the game the losing coach put in all bench players. (This is a whole another topic for me)

            What bothered me, and I was stunned that no one else was talking about it was that the players on the losing team’s bench, were so disgusted with what was going on, starting in the second half, lost all interest in the game. Now if you don’t think that will have a dramatic effect on future practices and future wins, I would ask you to read my book, or watch some of my videos.

            One interesting side note to the game, at halftime, the Athletic Director of the losing team had arranged for the sister of an alumnus to allow her dance group to perform on the court. They were very enthusiastic kids of different ages and ability. The cheerleading squad of the winning team, a very polished group, decided not only to let this other group go first, but when they were done, chose not to perform. A very classy and sportsmanlike gesture indeed.

The Stanford Rape Case and the Entitlement Culture

Category: Uncategorised
Published: Thursday, 09 June 2016

Much has been written about this case, and deservedly so. I have what I believe to be a different perspective on the matter. What I want to know about this case is why very few people are talking about the culture that had to exist for this to happen. Let me explain.

I want to know what kind of culture exists that, when a person is intoxicated at a party, there is no support system for that person to be helped home or at least help to provide them transportation.

When did we lose that sense of community where extreme behavior by a person is not cause for concern amongst friends? Or even strangers that are in contact with this person are not alarmed and want to help?

I do not have the whole story on the two men who came to her aid but I am pretty sure one of them was not from America. That seems to me to possibly be a big part of the story. What is prevalent in his culture that he would immediately come to the aid of a person he did not know? I see article and videos every day of people in trouble while bystanders sit and watch.

Now I want to talk about the dad. I have a daughter. She is 21 years old and a senior in college. She is an A student. I would hope that when she is around people that ALL of them are looking out for one another with a deep sense of community and well being. If this happened to my daughter I would be outraged at the boy and his father.

The father’s statement reeks of entitlement. I would like to know his background. What did he provide for his son during his youth sports ruse in the swimming environment and home environment that set up this cause and effect scenario? What is the dad’s background? Do they come from wealth?

What we do at Frozen Shorts is to try and change the culture. We want people to embrace the fact that they are children and need to be taught life lessons. The need to fail, they need to sacrifice, and they need to understand that we are all in this together. I am not better than you. You may be my opponent but I respect you and trust that you will play with sportsmanship and fair competition.

His letter, his reaction, the Judge’s decision, and the ensuing reaction are playing out all across the country, and rightly so. I simply want to ask one last question.

How did you think this was all going to end up?

Entitlement, lack of community, the haves and the have nots, are combined with a lack of accountability and ‘I got a raw deal so I can give someone else a raw deal without guilt’. You have a formula for a culture that is very unhealthy for our children’s future being promulgated and played out every day.

Stop the tsunami.

Ryan Callahan and Brina Gionta with Frozen Shorts

Category: Uncategorised
Published: Thursday, 02 June 2016